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Old 07-06-2011, 10:41 AM   #1
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Default Normal to be a 35 year old virgin?

Im 36 now and I have had sex, but Im still as lonely, i feel pathetic
Now I know a lot of people will tell me its great i had such self controll. well, I didnt. I just couldnt get laid, I was a loser, I was ugly and I was shy and I didnt get no pussy. Im intelligent, im a doctor so i make great money and im very preffesonal, im also nice and romantic (he says after just talking about getng pussy....but trust me i am), i go out a lot, despite being shy i have a lot of hobbies and if a girl says hi to me first i can have a great conversation, and im very funny. i know that sounds arrognant but i am very funny, i have good qualities and im not going to be afraid to admit them. i do have bad qualities, im shy and probably about a 4 when it comes to looks.
the problem was, girls rarely do say hi. and id been rejected by every single date id ever asked for for 20 years. so naturally i got shy. my profiles on eharmony and match went unoticed, as did my ad on craigslist. blind dates and speed dating, plus other singles events organised by my church gave me nothing, and despite my friends and even my own mother setting me up on date after date with their friends, it was never right. eventually, they ran out of friends and i ran out of hope. one night i decided to kill myself, but i thought 'ill get laid first.' i bought the mot beautiful escort the agency had and had a great night. in
  1. the morning i downed a bottle of pills, realising i would never have a woman like that. my best friend, whos a girl, found me and asked why i did it. i told her the truth, and she offered to sleep with me to take my virginity (i didnt mention the escort, i thought i was pathetic enough). i took her up on her offer and with a new lease of life, took myself to the far east for a break. there i discovered something wonderful. young asians love wealthy white men. sure, some were hookers, but for the majority of my 2 month trip i spent my time sleeping with beautiful asian girls for free, just because i was white!!!
  2. i got back to the uk with renewed confidence, and became fuck buddies with a slutty frind for a while and paid a couple more escorts, and fucked some ugly ducklings in a bar and even pulled a fit 17 year old girl on the rebound (dont judge, she looked about 25). but after all that sex, i still dont have what i really desire which is someone to love. im 100% STI free and I now know that I am a desirable man and would make a great husband and lover, but my eharmony and match profiles remain uncontacted and i still suffer rejection when i ask for dates. please help me, i aim to be in a stable relationship by 40 and have kids and be married by 45. what can i do
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Old 07-06-2011, 11:21 AM   #2
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You are an asshole and in my opinion you don't deserve a woman. NOT because you where a virgin at 35 or because you paid for sex, but because you obviously have zero respect for women.
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Old 07-06-2011, 12:19 PM   #3
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Unlike Florida, I don't think you're an asshole, because many men when they first discover sex can be a little... um... self centred about it and take what they can get while they can get it. It's no great shock to me that once the genie got out of the bottle it went a little crazy.

However, what I do think (and today I sound like a parrot with all the repetition) is that you need to get therapy. You claim to be very shy when it comes to women, and it took a long time for you to have sex. When you did, it wasn't with someone you cared about, but someone you paid for and that was only because you wanted to kill yourself. But your best friend is a woman. It makes no sense to me that you can have good friends who are women, yet not make that leap from being friends to dating/having a relationship. You've learned that you can get sex, and now that you've gotten it out of your system have found that it's empty and you want more than just that. But you're missing a few pieces, and it seems funny that you can pull a woman when you just want sex, but can't ask her out on a date/do the approaching to merely talk to her (and while I understand that 20 years of rejection does take a toll, you've had sex with women so you can't say that you've only found rejection any more). You're a highly functioning and reasonably successful person, except this one thing. There's more there under the surface that either you won't talk about or refuse to face.
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Old 07-06-2011, 12:37 PM   #4
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I think the main problem is, you've somehow managed to get a medical degree without learning proper English spelling and grammar. I think that with your intelligence you should be able to, without help from a typing assistant, use the Queen's written English properly. If you do this I'm certain women will be beating down your door.

Edit: As an after thought after I was done feeling chuffed about being mean... Basically Alfie you need to get in the mindset of self improvement. Therapy will definitely help with your problems. Women will respond to you if you look like you have everything together. I mean, what's not to love? You're a doctor, you're stable, it's likely that you're potentially a great guy who can be very respectful towards women. I mean, this isn't what your post demonstrates, basically describing women as walking pussies (every hole's a goal right? ), but I'm assuming apriori that you're at least an okay guy and you're simply not very good at demonstrating it.

Instead of thinking of yourself as a 4 when you look in the mirror, think, "How can I be a 6?" I mean, personally I don't like the 1-10 scale. It's more than a little bit demeaning to think that a person's entire worth can boil down to a number. If you're dedicated to using it though, I think it'd be a good change in mindset to do that once in a while. Try to give yourself more points, work for them. Be a better guy and you will have better luck finding a partner.

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Old 07-06-2011, 01:02 PM   #5
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Seriously, what speedy said, I could barely get through your poorly spelled and punctuated crap. If that's what your profiles look like then I can imagine they do go ignored.
Also, just because she "looked 25" doesn't actually make her 25. As the mother of 19 and 15 year old daughters you better damn well believe I'm going to judge.
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Old 07-08-2011, 12:10 AM   #6
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For some reason, I feel that you're just being sarcastic but it could just be me. I don't know why a rich doctor would want to pay a prostitute to have sex and not be able to rationalize sex scientifically to the point of finding self-fulfillment with it and still feel like a loser after having found some success with a tough to get occupation. Honestly, how did your grammar get you through medical school?

Anyway if it's all true with what you said and not invented, I would get myself tested for any STD if I haven't already. I would try to get in touch with some of the women I worked up and make sure I didn't create any unwanted pregnancies. If it happened overseas, then I would try to help take care of any babies by arranging some money to be sent over. With everything done, if I made no unwanted babies and had a DNA test to prove them wrong along with no STD, I would consider myself lucky and repent of my wrong doing and change a course of direction.

If I found that inspiration to change and became a better and more humbled person, I would pursue after a woman who would be understanding of my past and be able to accept this new person I've become and then form a relationship with her. I think I would also try to make it up for the best friend you stated took away your virginity.
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Old 07-08-2011, 05:45 AM   #7
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Doctor? Of what?

What Speedy and Meli said, even moreso. I'm guessing some teenage boys put their collective noggins together to post this nonsense.
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Old 07-08-2011, 11:14 AM   #8
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wow, a lot of grammaer nazis in today. just because i spent years studying to become a doctor doesnt mean im a total stickler from grammar on an inernet forum
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Old 07-08-2011, 11:23 AM   #9
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Did you not read ANYTHING else we said?

Seriously?
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Old 07-08-2011, 12:35 PM   #10
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course i read it, what makes you think i didnt
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Old 07-08-2011, 12:36 PM   #11
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oh and 17 is legal btw, so i guess you can judge all you want cos legally, ive done nothing wrong
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Old 07-08-2011, 12:45 PM   #12
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Had she been a family member of mine I would probably have done a few things to you that are illegal.

You're not a doctor either, just some dumbass troll. I refuse to believe anyone with a medical degree is this stupid. "i didn't get no pussy," wtf, you're an idiot.
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"grammaer" Nazis?

If you're a doctor I'm the King of Spain. Are you that desperate for self-amusement?
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Old 07-08-2011, 09:52 PM   #14
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Quote:
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course i read it, what makes you think i didnt
You didn't respond to it.

You're like, "heres may probelem"
We're like, "Advice advice (btw your grammar sucks, you should fix that.)"
and your response, "OMG you're villifying me for my grammar ;_;" (not that I think you would honestly be able to think of a word like villifying, much less use it naturally in a sentence.)
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Old 07-09-2011, 07:15 PM   #15
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ive listened to your advice, what did you want me to do, reply to you all saying 'ive listened to what you said?'
*grammar, it was a typo
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